Breaking the Myth of Laziness: A Working Mom's Guide to Managing Energy

One of the worst pieces of advice I ever received as a working mom trying to manage her home was to not be lazy. Here's why....

The underlying message was that if I wasn't tackling all of my goals and taking care of everything that needed to be done, it was because I lacked good character and discipline. I was told to work harder to get everything done.

But as a mom, there is always work that needs to be done. And it's not just a one-time tasks either - that includes cyclical stuff we do that comes back again and again. 

The 3 Different Energy Times (Inspired by Human Design)

The Most Abundant Energy Type

Some people have seemingly unlimited energy and can tackle anything and everything. But holding them up as a standard for all of us to reach is not fair, because many of us will never reach that level of abundant energy. It's just not in our genetic makeup.

Furthermore, having an abundance of energy can actually be challenging as these people may feel pressured to do any and everything that seems necessary, regardless of whether it holds personal significance to them or not. This lack of selectivity in energy expenditure can lead to a busy schedule filled with societal expectations, leaving little to no time for introspection and pursuing one's own goals. Consequently, it can cause one to question if life is simply a monotonous cycle of chores and routines.

The Selectively Abundant Energy Type

There are also those of us who can tap into an abundance of energy, however we need to be doing things that light us up and that feel meaningful. If scrubbing baseboards is not our thing, we may struggle with believing that we are lazy because we can't commit to cleaning labor for hours upon hours. But that's not the case - some of us our designed to thrive when we are intentional about where we spend our time and energy. If we do what we love, we will find an abundance of energy for that. We have to be selective with what we do outside of the things that we care about, because we won't have the energy to sustain doing those types of tasks all day. 

There is nothing wrong with being created this way. Those of us in this category can do a pretty decent job of keeping up with household responsibilities by setting up short, realistic routines that focus on high impact tasks and leverage the part of the day when we tend to be the most energized. Consistently showing up to short, strategic routines may not seem like a big deal in the short term, but it does add up. If you need an example of what this could look like, check out my free YouTube course called The Peaceful Home keeping Challenge.

The Most Selective Energy Type

Some people just don't have a ton of energy for one reason or another. They have to be the most intentional about where they spend their time and energy. Once again, there is nothing wrong with this energy profile. This group of people have their own strengths and contributions to offer the world, but it's just not going to be their physical output. All these energy types would benefit from outsourcing and asking for help. But strategies to minimize the mess to begin with and asking for help will be of the utmost importance for people whose energy levels are set up like this. And that's okay.

Learn to Thrive In Your Own (Energy) Lane

In conclusion, we're all designed to function in different ways energetically. What hurts all of us is to believe that one energy type is superior above all of the rest. All of these different energy types have their strengths and weaknesses, even the high energy type society tells us we should all aspire to. Instead of trying to get it all done, the goal instead should to be to become self aware, learn where you are energetically, and find strategies to help you thrive in your own lane.

Peace and Blessing, 

LaDay